Tips for destressing the family schedule

Reduce expectations

  • When things are feeling too much just let somethings go. Set your standards lower and then progressively teach yourself to spend time on the things that matter

  • Try not to sweat the small stuff!


Delegate things so that one person isn’t juggling the mental load of everything for the family

  • Get your partner to take on entire responsibility for certain things (e.g. be the point of contact around weekend sports, homework)

  • Get your kids involved early in being responsible for their schedule. Encourage them to be ready in advance so you aren’t rushing to get out the door and as they get older they can help you organise lifts, communicate with coaches etc

Leverage your networks of parents/kids going to same location to help each other

  • The start of a sports season or school year is a great time to find ways to help each other

  • If you don’t have a big network, be brave and introduce yourself to someone. Ask them to introduce you to others and before you know it you will know half the class/team

  • If people aren’t carpooling plant the seed by doing some random acts of helping (send a message offering to do the driving for something coming up)

  • Ask for help and don’t take it personally if someone can’t help you

  • When someone offers you help, accept it with an attitude of grace, not defeat!

Plan ahead and try to be organised

  • Cooking and shopping efficiently isn’t exciting, but it can save you a lot of time and doesn’t always have to involve mince!

  • Avoid nasty mistakes like turning up at the wrong venue for a match because you forgot to check the location\

  • Schedule in time for yourself to do the things you want to do, ideally at a regular time every week

Use technology to streamline and communicate easily

  • there are plenty of tools out there to help people get organised. Getting across some of them is worth the initial time investment (e.g. shared calendars, aps such as OurHome for kids chores, TeamApp & TeamStuff for team mgmt., PlanBuyCook)

  • Make sure access to technology/schedule info (e.g. school portals, team apps) info is in a central place so people can help themselves rather than rely on mum

  • Keep your sense of humour and don’t complain to your kids about the driving – much of the time you are taking them to something you encouraged them to try!